What is Hate?

How to Talk with Students about Anti-Asian Violence

Join us for a Free Panel Discussion on Monday, March 22

from 4:00 – 5:00 pm PDT

Hate. Where do we learn to hate?

We’ve all heard kids say they hate math or broccoli, but that’s just a watered-down version of this toxic emotion. So where, and how, do we learn to hate another human being?

This time last year, as schools were closing down due to the pandemic, we were hearing concerns about elementary school students using anti-Asian racial slurs in regards to COVID-19. Then George Floyd was murdered and “Black Lives Matter” came to the forefront of the public consciousness. Today, hate and violence dominate the news as people acknowledge and denounce (Stop Asian Hate) the violence against Asian Americans this past week.

Racism in all its forms – from anti-Asian violence to the continued injustices against Black people – is confusing and challenging for young people. At Soul Shoppe, we teach kids that no one deserves to be treated with disrespect, inequity, or violence. Every student deserves to feel and be safe in their homes and communities.

That’s why we would like to support families and educators in sorting out their feelings so that together, we can and help students feel and be safe.

Racism in all its forms – from anti-Asian violence to the continued injustices against Black people – is confusing and challenging for young people.

This Monday, March 22nd from 4-5 pm, Soul Shoppe’s founder vicki abadesco! will moderate a panel discussion for families and educators to share experiences and resources to support all of our students, and especially our Asian-American Pacific Islander students.

We’ll gather educators and experts to answer some questions, like:

What are your students/children thinking about?

How are they impacted by this?

How are they processing hate violence?

What’s the “right” thing to say?

Talking openly about these issues and our feelings around them is the first step toward making meaningful change. Join us.

Panelist Bios

Vicki Abadesco (she/her)

vicki abadesco! is an internationally-recognized leader in the field of social-emotional learning, anti-bullying, and creating a more empathy-based world. She brings over 30 years of experience teaching life skills and conflict resolution tools to young people and adults. As an educator, speaker and facilitator, vicki! is known for creating fun, safe, and transformative environments.

She is the author of Free to Be: Untold Stories of Going Beyond Bullying, co-author of Cool Tools for Schools and The Empty Balloon; as well as two activity card decks: Mentor Magic and Leadership: Truth or Dare.

vicki! is a fellow for the Dalai Lama Center for Ethics and Transformative Values at MIT. She co-founded Soul Shoppe in 2000.

Arek Bryant (he/him)
Arek began teaching elementary school math while earning his BS in Music Engineering. After returning home to Oakland, he joined a coalition of African-American male educators that formed an alternative school for boys that were not performing well in traditional brick and mortar. Arek’s “off-the-cuff” style of teaching engaged and encouraged his students and proved to be successful, as the majority of his 12th grade students went on to pass their state exams and many went on to college. He believes, “The best learning happens when you are having fun.”

As program director for the McCullum Youth Court, Arek worked to reduce the recidivism of youth crimes in Oakland and Berkeley. Realizing the problem was not the youth, but their circumstances, he began to have one-on-one relationships with each young person he worked with to influence change in their circumstances. Arek has continued to focus on uplifting and educating youth through teaching, musical mentorships and ministry.

Along with the joy of homeschooling his children, Arek has enjoyed an amazing musical journey. From George Clinton to Teddy Riley to Janet Jackson, Arek has been blessed to work with many truly amazing artists. He currently runs Chamberz Studio (Winner of the “Oakland Soul “Indie Award) and is an On-Air personality for KCBZ Global and KPFA Berkeley.

Marie Tang (she/her)
Marie Tang was born and raised in San Francisco. Like many Chinese immigrants, her family’s journey began in Chinatown. Since then, Marie has lived throughout the Mission and the Southeast parts of San Francisco. She was a 2nd grade Cantonese biliteracy teacher for 12 years at Monroe, in the neighborhood, she grew up in. After the birth of her daughter (now 4 years old), Marie switched paths to become a librarian. Now Marie is back in Chinatown, full circle, to serve a community that was there for my family from the start.
Dr. Chelsey Hauge Zavaleta (she/her)

Dr. Chelsey Hauge-Zavaleta is the executive director of and parenting coach with Positive Parenthood. Focusing on supporting families & teachers with relationship-based tools for creating connection and inspiring cooperation, Chelsey draws on contemporary research on parenting, neuroscience, social justice and education in her work with families and schools. As a white mother & educator, she supports parents to deconstruct how whiteness shows up in families, and to raise children who will stand up for justice. Dr. Hauge-Zavaleta works with all kinds of families, especially those raising spirited kids, neurodiverse children, and children that get labeled as “challenging.” Chelsey brings deep expertise on child and adolescent development, digital literacy, and working with children and adults through creative expression. You can learn more about Chelsey’s work here: www.positiveparenthood.org

Adrienne Hidalgo Esguerra (she/her)

Adrienne Hidalgo Esguerra, MA is a parent, auntie, educator and daughter of generation 1.5 immigrants from the Philippines and is mothering 5 boys in a multigenerational home. She is the founder of Afterschooling Better, a safe space for parents and caregivers born out of necessity to honor and explore the intersectionality of: your identity formation as a parent + how your socialization (the way you were parented and schooled) deeply impacts how you parent. Her goal is to provide tools and frameworks to start and sustain challenging conversations with parents and family members and create a safe space to deepen your parenting practice. Learn more about Adrienne’s work at afterschoolingbetter.com

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Statistics:

  • 1 in 4 Asian American youths experience racist bullying (from ABC News)
  • About four-in-ten Black and Asian adults say people have acted as if they were uncomfortable around them because of their race or ethnicity since the beginning of the outbreak (from Pew Research)
  • Stop AAPI Hate began tracking violence and harassment against Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders on March 19 last year. From then through the end of 2020, Stop AAPI Hate received a total of 3,292 complaints from all 50 states and Washington, DC, according to a Stop AAPI Hate news release. 
  • A new study based on police department statistics across major U.S. cities found a nearly 150% surge in anti-Asian hate crimes in 2020.

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